This episode explains how Ontario restraining orders work in family court, including when courts may grant protection, what restrictions can be requested, how emergency “without notice” motions may apply, and why detailed evidence and safety planning matter. Click here to learn more.
Fear has a way of changing how you see everything. One day you’re questioning whether you’re overreacting, and the next you’re thinking, “I need this to stop.” When that fear involves someone you know well, or used to, the decision to seek protection can feel overwhelming.
Many people hesitate because they worry about escalating the situation, especially when children, shared housing, or years of history are involved. They may not know what options exist, what courts will consider, or what evidence matters. This episode shares general information about restraining orders in Ontario family court, not legal advice.
Here’s a starting point that many people don’t hear clearly enough: Ontario courts may grant a restraining order when there are reasonable grounds to fear for your safety or the safety of your children. Physical violence does not have to happen first for a court to consider protection. Depending on the circumstances, threats, intimidation, stalking, and patterns of controlling behaviour can also be relevant. What the court looks at is whether your fear is reasonable in context.
At the same time, it’s important to be realistic about what a restraining order can and cannot do. A court order creates legal consequences if someone breaches it, and it gives police a framework to act when the terms are violated. But it does not create a physical barrier. That’s why many people benefit from building safety plans alongside the legal process—practical steps that may include telling trusted contacts, speaking with an employer if appropriate, and ensuring schools or childcare providers understand the situation when children are involved.
Restraining order terms can be tailored to the risk. Many orders restrict contact in all forms: calling, texting, emailing, messaging on social media, or showing up in person. Some also prohibit indirect contact through third parties, which can matter when someone uses friends or relatives to pass messages. Courts can also include distance restrictions, setting boundaries around places like your home, workplace, or the children’s school, depending on the circumstances.
When children are involved, things can become more complex. Parenting arrangements often continue, but safety concerns remain central. Depending on the facts, a court might put conditions in place that reduce risk, such as limiting contact between adults while setting a safer structure for parenting exchanges, or requiring supervision in some situations. The court generally weighs the children’s best interests alongside the safety concerns raised in the evidence.
In Ontario, there are typically two common ways to start the process, and the route you use can affect paperwork and timelines. Some people apply as a standalone family court application when they are not already in an ongoing family case. Others request a restraining order within an existing family law matter, such as a case involving separation, parenting, or support, by bringing a motion. In that situation, the judge may be able to consider the protection request alongside related family issues.
If there’s an urgent safety concern, Ontario procedures may allow emergency steps in limited scenarios. One option can be a motion without notice, meaning a temporary order may be requested without the other person being told in advance. Courts generally reserve that type of emergency approach for specific circumstances, for example, where there is a credible risk of immediate harm, where the person cannot be located for service, or where there is a concern that children could be removed from Ontario. A temporary order is usually followed by a return court date or hearing where both sides have an opportunity to provide evidence, and the judge decides whether to continue, change, or end the restrictions.
Evidence is often what shapes outcomes. Courts decide based on evidence, not just how strong the fear feels. Strong requests typically include clear, detailed information in affidavits describing what happened, when it happened, where it happened, and why it created safety concerns. Specific incidents are more persuasive than general statements. Supporting documents can also help, depending on what exists—messages, emails, call logs, photographs, police reports, medical documentation, or witness information.
Patterns can matter too. A series of events showing escalation, repeated boundary violations, or ongoing intimidation may help a court understand the context. Even without physical violence, evidence of threats, stalking behaviour, property damage, or harassment can be relevant depending on the facts.
If an order is granted, it’s important that the right people know what it says. Keeping copies available can help, and where children are included, providing copies to schools or childcare programs can help staff respond appropriately if concerns arise. If a breach happens, documenting it and contacting the police is commonly part of enforcement. And generally, responding to prohibited contact can complicate the situation, so many people try to avoid engagement and focus on documentation and reporting.
Finally, restraining orders are one tool. Safety often requires more layers than any single document can provide. Community agencies, shelters, victim services, and legal support options can help with safety planning, emotional support, and practical resources. The right combination depends on your situation, your supports, and the level of risk.
If you want help understanding options and processes in your circumstances, connect with Pace Law Firm’s family law team. Pace Law Firm City: Toronto Address: 191 The West Mall Website: https://pacelawfirm.com